Virgo

The ever practical perfectionist Virgo celebrates their birthday during the same month that dictates the main motivating archetype of their personalities. End of August and beginning of September bring the largest harvest time on earth. This is a time of year that people gather and bring together all the hard work from the summer, and all the waiting from the previous winter. They go out into the fields and pastures as the summer light begins to ebb and the summer heat starts to wane. In the same way Virgo’s love to bring what seems to be chaos into synthesis, and create harmony when there is discord.

Ruled by Mercury, Virgo is a bit of a head over heart person, and yet, as previous Virgo lovers in my life have amply demonstrated, they allow their childhood to permeate the rest of their life, which imbues everything that they do with a profound level of wonder and excitement. In relationships the tension between intellect and wonder, can produce a dizzying display of conversationalism and an independent search for knowledge, that can either alienate you as a Virgo’s lover or bring you in so thoroughly that you could never imagine being with someone as interesting or as dynamic.

Your Virgo lover is not only shy but is extremely hard on his/her self, and that is a combination that can lead to some problematic personality traits. It can, at first, seem as though Virgo is completely detached, without emotion, and yet precisely the opposite is true. They are keenly sensitive, and this can be seen as any depth of relationship is explored between you and your Virgo lover.

This criticism is the basis of your lover’s most annoying personality trait: the external critic that exists in every Virgo. Despite your best attempts to let your partner know how much this type of nagging examination of all you faults, bugs you, they persist. It is as much a reflection of how incomplete they sometimes feel, and less about you. But it is something that will drive away not only casual relationships, but the meaningful ones as well.

Virgo has a hard enough time finding someone that they feel can even measure up to the harsh light of their ever evaluating third eye, but once they do find that special someone, the temptation can be to continue to perfect that person. As much as it is appealing to let Virgo take a red marking pen to your personality because you desire their love, it is important to remember that they are reflecting their own insecurities. In letting them continue this type of behavior you are reconstituting their own identity issues.

Don’t let Virgo fool you though. It is easy to mistake the shyness of the Virgo as aloofness, when really all it is that they are more comfortable with intellectualizing and dialoging than spilling their dark emotional secrets. It is for this reason that watching and touching them is the best way to create an intimate physical connection, rather than over eloquent speech. They want to be held when they need to feel loved, fed when they are hungry, and kissed when they feel passionate. They are an earth sign, and thus feel most at home with their five senses, so they are also known to be hot in bed.

***Warning, withholding of affection as a means to argue or get something from a Virgo, will inevitably backfire. Instead of motivating them it will reduce the reason that they want to do something for you in the first place. They will feel unloved when not touched, and they will lose interest in an attempt to protect themselves. Always bribe your Virgo with love and sex, never with negatives.

Best Relationship Matches

Pisces Though your natural opposite is also your most ideal partner. Every quality you lack is ample in Pisces, and vice-versa, so no problem in this marriage is unsolvable, and every day is interesting.

Taurus Has a big heart, while he/she waits for your headiness

Capricorn Both of you are perfectionists and can work extremely well together, bringing harmony to your worlds.

Worst Relationship Matches

Aries Too bossy and will not tolerate your pickiness

Libra Completely unable to take your criticism

Aquarius Both wrong and right, but if it’s wrong you both will be at each other’s throats

Earth is real, you can see it, hold it, smell it. Suitably so, earth signs are very “down to earth” and real. Earth is the foundation on which everything is built. Earth people are solid and stable and composed of many different parts, they are multi faceted people, like the many mineral compounds that make the earth. There is nothing wishy-washy about these people, they do not have their head in the clouds, They are dependable, you know they will always be there and they are stable. Most of the time anyway, more stable then the other elements. Earth does not change. It stays there and allows whatever is growing to continue to grow and progress. Earth people are not fond of change, they like stability and regular life that can grow upon and develop. Why start something new if what is already there is fine? Earth people are the most materialistic and possessive of all astrology zodiac elements. Earth people are also concerned with what’s on the surface and never really dig deep to get to the bottom of it, they are happy with what’s on the surface.

Eager to please

Virgos are naturally helpful and efficient individuals.  Therefore, when a Virgo male or female likes someone, they’re very eager to please.  Are you hungry?  How are you feeling? Is there anything that I can get you?  A Virgo in like/love will make you feel like a king or queen.  They’re concerned with you well-being because they care.  Rather than waiting to get in a relationship, a Virgo displays their eagerness to please right away.  It’s an expression of love in a sense.

Affection

Here’s one thing, Virgos are not quick to give compliments, not because they’re mean, but because they’re already immersed in the thoughts of what’s going on in their world, in their head.  However, a Virgo that makes it an effort to compliment you and make you special is definitely into you.  

Wait, so why is there distance?

Once a Virgo’s feelings become stronger, they turn within.  They resort to going into their own shell and analyzing you to a T.  Opening up is a big big big thing for a Virgo, and therefore they have to test your character, assess your worth.  They put together every little detail about you and him/her trying to see whether or not the relationship will or will not work.  Virgos are the ones who love long term relationships, so if they seem distant and disappear for awhile, leave them be.  If a Virgo asks for distance because they want to think, it’s because they need to recharge their mind.  They’ll come back. That’s a promise.  Just make sure you text them to check up on them; let them know you miss them.  

Friction. Cold. Huh?

Some Virgos are really cold when they like you.  It can be irritating because you think they’re really mean, but that’s just how they are. You have to be strong when you get into a relationship with a Virgo because they want someone that could handle anything tossed at them.  Never be too emotional and sappy; tell them how you feel.  Nevertheless, Virgos are very reserved with their feelings.  They prefer to have them blossom over time.  If you love/like Virgo enough, you will have patience with them when it comes to revealing their feelings.  

Let’s Hang out!

Virgos can be hard to read.  Yet eyes are the window of the soul and a Virgo will deliver their emotions through their eyes.  Staring and eye contact signals that the Virgo likes you.  Also, if a Virgo likes you, they’ll want to spend a lot of time with you, talking and finding out little things about you.  Time is precious and a Virgo would never waste.  Consider yourself special when time is spent with you.  

Positive description

Ultimately, it is hard for a Virgo to trust people.  They’re typically very sensitive and easily hurt, and so if they share any intimate details about themselves with you, it’s a sure sign of attraction.  Virgos value intelligence, education, knowledge and a good convo in a partner.  Therefore, if a Virgo describes you are “smart”, “intelligent”, or “fun to talk to”, it’s a huge indication that they like you!

Virgo is the mutable earth-sign. There is movement but it is controlled, thought oriented and grounded. Virgo is a mind ruled person and they give their love slowly and with great seriousness. They dislike overt and grand standing displays of attention or emotion and will retreat inside themselves to escape it. They are generally self- controlled and their emotions fall into that category. When their heart is captured their loved one receives all the feelings and passions that Virgo has been keeping inside. At times even more expectations and conditions can be piled onto the lover simply because they are now holding the Virgo’s cherished feelings and dreams. In love they are devoted, loyal and nurturing. They have high expectations for themselves and equally high expectations of their loved ones. They adore strength especially the dignified and quiet kind. They will tend to and take care of their loved one with diligence and focus as if it has become their “job”. Love has to make sense for the Virgo, it has to fit into their idea and ideal of what their life is about. Once a lover has managed to slip into one of their dreams or plans the Virgo will hold onto that picture forever. They will go out of their way to make the union work and will spare no sacrifice in keeping it alive.